Just a friendly reminder:
When you say things like…
- "But you look so healthy!"
- "You look fine, though."
- "You never look sick.”
- "You seem fine to me!"
it comes across as patronising.
I know these words are meant to be encouraging and positive, but they come across as very demeaning to people with invisible illnesses.
What you’re trying to say is that you think we look great even though we are sick, which is a lovely sentiment, but when you express it in words like these, it sounds like you are belittling our illnesses and our experience.
Here are some ways you can word it a bit better…
- You look lovely today.
- You always manage to look amazing!
- You’re doing really well.
Thanks a lot. (:
(Please feel free to add your thoughts to this - I know I am missing out a lot!)